The Alleyway

By Alana Edgin
On March 30, 2017

People are confusing.

I have this best friend from Midland who is an awesomely kind person. He can play the guitar, is always there for his friends and is a generally good guy. He confuses me because he just has the worst luck with girls.

I met him when I worked at Hastings, and we worked together on the Midland College newspaper.

The third member of our trio, another coworker, and I agree that our buddy has bad luck or bad taste.

The reason we think this is because, for the few years we’ve known him, he has dated some girls who were just bad. His first girl lived with her ex. Am I the only one who thinks that’s a sign?

His next girlfriend was this real sweet 18 year old coworker. Now, you are probably thinking it’s all good. I mean, she is sweet and small and can’t be that bad. WRONG!

This girl, let’s call her M, had this horrible friend who would constantly bully my friend. This friend of M’s would hit him, shove him and be a general nightmare. Yes, guys do get bullied by girls. It was so bad that I told my friend I would get involved if I saw her hit him again.

M kept apologizing for her friend’s behavior, but made no move to stop it. She didn’t even try to talk to her. This says something about her.

Fast forward a year, and my friend has dropped off the face of the Earth. Apparently, M had told him not to talk to anyone she didn’t like, i.e. anyone who thought she was acting poorly, i.e.  everyone. My friend obeyed the command and I didn’t hear from him for months.

Now he has broken up with this girl who was mentally abusive. But, and this is where it confounds me, he still misses her. He wants to be with her again and still talks to her, and she still gets furious that he talks to any other girl, including myself.

I understand jealousy, and love, but this is all simply too much. She was poisonous to him. M tore him away from his family and friends. This is a sign of abuse.

I want to make a public statement here. Men get abused. Men get bullied. Men get hurt. Society seems to shove this under the rug and ridicule any men who step up about these issues.

Let’s stop this. Male and female abuse exists, and they are devastating to the abused. We as a society need to open our eyes to this issue. 

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